しとやか・淑やかshitoyaka[2]nakadaka (mid-high)

1. na-adjectivegraceful; ladylike; modest; gentle; polite; quiet; well-mannered; refined (behavior)
   その婦人ふじんの態度たいどはしとやかだ。↗

   The lady has a graceful manner.

• Synonym優雅ゆうがNeutralNeutral and very versatile: graceful elegance and ease, as in 「優雅な生活」; not tied to a person's quiet, ladylike bearing.
• Synonym上品じょうひんNeutralEveryday word for refined good taste, as in 「上品な人」; the most common choice and not limited to women.
• SynonymエレガントNeutralLoanword for chic, stylish elegance, mostly of clothing and design; 「淑やか」 instead describes a person's quiet bearing.
• Synonym雅やかみやびやかWrittenWritten, classical word for courtly elegance and refinement; stresses gorgeous beauty rather than the quiet, dignified conduct that 「淑やか」 describes.
• Related優美ゆうびWrittenWritten word for the beauty of posture and line; mostly describes movements and forms, while 「淑やか」 speaks of composed, steady conduct.
• Related典雅てんがWrittenWritten word for dignified, classical elegance, mostly of music or prose style, though conduct works too, as in 「典雅な立ち居振る舞い」; 「淑やか」 stresses quiet composure.
• Related奥ゆかしいおくゆかしいNeutralDescribes a reserved, cultivated person whose modesty draws admiration; stresses inner restraint, while 「淑やか」 stresses quiet outward conduct.
• RelatedたおやかWrittenWritten word for supple, willowy grace; highlights a soft, flexible figure, as in 「たおやかな舞」.
• Related雅みやびWrittenClassical written word for refined elegance, as in 「雅な世界」; evokes a cultured atmosphere rather than an individual's deportment.
• Related高雅こうがWrittenWritten word for lofty, refined elegance, mostly of art and style rather than people; 「淑やか」 instead centers on quiet personal conduct.
• Antonym粗野そやNeutralAntonym: rough and uncouth in speech or behavior, the opposite of the quiet, dignified 「淑やか」.

Use 「しとやか」 for quiet, dignified speech and behavior, as in 「しとやかな女性」. For general good taste say 「上品」, for graceful ease 「優雅」, for reserved modesty 「奥ゆかしい」. Written words like 優美, 嫋やか, 雅 and 高雅 lean toward form, art or atmosphere; 「エレガント」 suits chic style. 「粗野」 is the antonym.

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1. 上品じょうぼんで落ち着おちついているさま。